Your Past Does Not Define You

“As far as the east is from the west, so far does He remove our transgressions from us.” -Psalm 103:12 When we wrestle with shame, we feel like our brokenness is the whole story. Shame says, “Your past defines you. You are too broken to be loved. You will never be whole or healed.” Shame…

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Search me, O God, and know my heart

When I was in college I took a personality assessment that gave me an interesting result- it said I was 98% extroverted on the introversion/extroversion scale. A staff member reviewed my results and was surprised by my number. “It’s not a bad thing, but you may want to explore healthy ways to stretch yourself in…

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To the one struggling in silence…

To the one struggling in silence…I wrote you a letter today. I wrote it to myself, too- for the girl years ago who used to hide her sadness. Who was afraid to be seen. Who thought people would only love her if she showed her happy, put-together life. This letter is a reminder to us…

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How God Loved Me Into Motherhood

– – – Shifting the Self to Make Room When I was growing up, I didn’t play “house” in the same way other little girls did. I played writer, teacher, theatre director, Miss America, and interior designer. I played artist, inventor, and in 9th grade I had one weird year where I thought I wanted…

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A letter to my body and its grief

My body holds memories of its grief. Sometimes it manifests as anxiety, bubbling up as a slow simmer. Sometimes it is triggered by the news, or hearing someone else’s story that brushes up against mine. That is the pain that feels sharpest. Sometimes it comes out as anger, when I haven’t taken time to just…

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Come Out of Hiding

“But He said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.’ Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.” -2 Corinthians 12:9 (NIV) The Lie: Here is one of the biggest lies I have ever struggled…

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The Unworthy/Unlovable Lie

THE LIES: Elementary school. That was the first time I had that feeling of not fitting in. Specifically, third grade. I was tall and lanky with glasses and a bad underbite. I was shy and wanted to fit in with the group of girls who had emerged as “popular.” I remember feeling embarrassed on the…

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I am clean, I am made new

In this identity series, I will tell you a story of my own struggle with a particular lie/old identity, and then the Scriptures and prayers I’ve used to re-claim a new identity in Christ. Read the intro here.  I thought I was…. (here are the lies I wrestled with): Unclean, dirty, impure, shameful, destined to…

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