Earlier this month I announced I would write on the topic of shame. Little did I know that we would be walking through this together. I uncovered a new layer of trauma in counseling and I can’t stop going over the tendrils of shame that still try to sink their way into my thought…
Read moreVulnerability with boundaries; open heart with backbone
“Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.” -Proverbs 4:23 Remember yesterday I shared about the fence versus the open field? While an open field sounds beautiful, a fence is a necessary and healthy boundary created to keep the safe things inside the unsafe things out. It is…
Read moreA field, a wall, and a fence (on vulnerability with others)
Like a field of wildflowers Her heart was wide open She wore it on her sleeve, for all to see And that heart was welcoming, soft, unguarded The trouble with her open heart is that she kept giving it away She overshared and she over-trusted She spilled her soul to those who would listen And…
Read moreWho’s climbing up the mountain with you? (on vulnerability and finding safe people)
When I was in my darkest place, my pain lied to me. It told me that I was all alone. It whispered that no one would understand my hurt. That I was a burden. So I shoved the pain down for years until I no longer could hold it inside. I remember the day I…
Read moreHow addressing our wounds brings healing
“You can’t heal a wound by saying it’s not there,” -Jeremiah 6:14 (TLB) When I was in middle school, I fell on my knee at a friend’s house. We were playing charades on the treadmill (questionable judgment) and she gave me the prompt, “Pretend you’re running in the park and you see a cute guy.”…
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